Spend some time alone every day
On May 14, 2013 by Rahul Singh
We all live a busy life. We all have our own responsibilities to carry out every day.
It doesn't matter whether you are a student, employee, or manager - there is no one who doesn't have his own burdens.
Add to this the events that happen every day in your life which are beyond your control. Your car broke down; your senior yelled at you; you failed at your task; and sometimes more than one thing can go wrong.
And that's when you feel depressed, and blame your situation on such and such persons or conditions. You do that because it's easy to blame others for your sufferings; what's hard is to accept the truth and take actions to improve your life.
But to take the right actions, you need to understand what's right and what's not. And for that, you need time to find the right answers for all your questions. That's why the need to form this habit of spending some quiet time alone every day.
If you want to live a happy and rich life, learn to apply this every day in your life. Spend some quality time sitting alone, quietly, and reflecting upon the events in your life.
The more time you spend reflecting upon the events in your life, the better you'll understand them. The better you understand them, the better you can handle them.
Take some time out of your daily life and reflect upon the events of the present or previous day. You can do this any time you are free. Usually early morning and just before you sleep at night works best for most people.
Think about the things that are happening in your life right now. Ask yourself questions and answer them honestly. There is no one to give you good grades for the best answer. Just be honest with yourself.
Ask yourself - why that person treated you in wrong way? why did this happened to you and not to somebody else? what can you do to make sure that it doesn't happen again? how can you become strong to handle such situations in future?
There may be a hundred different questions like this, but do ask yourself the most important questions every day and try to find their answers. And when you do find the answers try to implement them in your daily life.
Reflecting every day on your thoughts is a good habit, and like any other habit you need to practice it daily to reap its benefits for long time. When you reflect on your life every day, you understand more and more about it with each passing day.
You recognize your strengths and understand your weaknesses. You gain more control over your actions. You learn to identify the right from wrong, and are able to make the right choice even when you are provoked to do the wrong thing.
You start gaining inner mastery.
It won't be long before you start to ask yourself more and more deeper questions about life. Questions that arise only out of deep thinking and which can only be answered by deep thinking. Questions that matter much much more than those superficial level questions you had earlier.
But that's something you'll figure out later when you face them. For now it's enough to get started with this habit of reflecting every day on your thoughts and feelings. And to do that you have to spend some quiet time daily.
You can't think clear thoughts, at least not when you are just starting out, when there are other people around you. You can't think clearly when there is lot of noise, pollution and chaos around you.
You can only think clearly if you are at a quiet and peaceful place, all on your own, with no one to disturb you or interrupt your smooth flow of thoughts and feelings. When these thoughts and feelings flow inside you, you learn to see them clearly and analyze them properly.
Then you gain all the knowledge you need to make the right decisions if the same situation were to come up again.
That's how you learn to grow every day - both personally and professionally. Just one good habit and you are on your way towards living a better life.
Life is a beautiful journey. Don't let it turn into a stressful life filled with several bad experiences. Instead, take actions when you have the time, do the right things when you have the choice, and spend some time alone when you have the opportunity.