How to stop worrying
On February 21, 2013 by Rahul Singh
As human beings with highly developed brains, we often think too much about certain events in our life and end up harming ourselves in this process.
We worry about past events that happened in our life.
We worry about future events that are yet to happen.
The root cause of this worry is thinking too much about an issue. Thinking more than it deserves to be thought about.
We worry about our day-t0-day job.
We worry about our relationships.
We worry about our financial situations.
When all these problems are settled we start worrying about the unknown, events that are not even likely to happen.
What happens when we worry so much?
We burden our minds with unnecessary tension and feel stressed out.
We are not able to make right decisions when our mind is clouded by such unwanted worrying thoughts.
So how can we stop worrying altogether?
If you have the habit of thinking too much about absolutely trivial issues in your life, then it will take you some time to give up this habit of worrying.
For starters, you have to to pause and reflect upon the cause of your worry.
Ask yourself this question and answer it honestly: Is it really worth spending your precious energy thinking about that particular activity?
While certain issues do need your direct attention and needs to be solved with clear thinking, being worried about it isn't going to decrease your burden in any way.
A better way to spend that time would be to take actions that will really help in decreasing this burden in your mind.
For example, say you are worried about an important job interview tomorrow. Now you can handle this situation in two ways.
First, by thinking too much about the outcome of the interview. What if I fail in that interview? What if I don't meet the employers expectations? What if I fail to get up in the morning? What if the alarm clock fails to ring?
There is no end to such worrying. If you think about it deeply, you too will realize that you cannot control most of these situations. Sure, you can take some precautions on your side. But can you really eliminate every stumbling block in your way by just thinking about it?
I don't think so.
From my experience, if there is one thing that I have learned from discarding such thoughts is that in the long run they don't matter at all.
So how do you tackle such worrying situations?
That's by taking the second way, which is nothing but taking real actions to solve your problems.
Let's go back to our example and see how we can better handle this interview problem.
Instead about worrying about how the interview goes, how about practicing some mock interviews with your friends or family members? Instead of speculating whether the interviewer would ask you such and such questions, how about finding their answers and practice speaking them fluently?
Instead of worrying about failure, how about recognizing this as a great learning experience that might help you in getting an even better job someday in future?
You see, the whole attitude through which we solve such problems lies in our mind itself. You only have to understand it, and figure out how to channel your thinking in a positive and action-oriented direction.
It might be tough initially, but trust me, with just a little bit of practice you will start seeing the improvements in your day-to-day life.
If you want to take just one thing away from this article, take this : The next time any worrying thought comes to your mind, then instead of thinking too much about it, take real action towards solving it.
That's all you need to know to solve all those trivial worries in your day-to-day life, that are nothing but the creations of the mind. The habit of taking real actions to solve your life problems, will help you in eliminating those worrying thoughts completely.
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